What does Saint Thomas Aquinas say about Marriage?

Fra_Angelico_080-e1494360800791 What does Saint Thomas Aquinas say about Marriage?The modern world is full of broken marriages and families. Unfortunately, this lamentable trend includes many Christians. Instead of opposing family breakdown, many favor making it easier with divorce and living together arrangements. As a result, such concessions have become accepted and even commonplace. The confusion reigning in civil society now extends even to the Church. The very essence of marriage and the family are now being debated.

In face of all of this, we must not forget Our Lord’s words: “What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.” (Mark 10 : 9) These are not empty words. Besides the divine authority sustaining this command, logic and nature clearly show that marriage is permanent and insoluble.

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Understanding the perennial truth on marriage is an important first step to helping society get back on track on this crucial issue. Saint Thomas Aquinas is eminently qualified to explain these truths. Eight hundred years have transpired since he wrote these truths. Yet they read as though he had written them yesterday. They address the present problems concerning marriage and family.1

 

Marriage is Natural

Saint Thomas: A thing is said to be natural in two ways. First, as resulting of necessity from the principles of nature; thus upward movement is natural to fire. In this way matrimony is not natural, nor are any of those things that come to pass at the intervention or motion of the free-will. Secondly, that is said to be natural to which nature inclines although it comes to pass through the intervention of the free-will; thus acts of virtue and the virtues themselves are called natural; and in this way matrimony is natural, because natural reason inclines thereto in two ways. (Supplement, Q 41. A1)

Commentary: To those that would argue that the permanent nature of the bond of marriage is an artificial human invention, Saint Thomas counters that it is, in fact, a natural union. Matrimony, he states, is natural not in the sense that a marriage falls into place on its own, but rather natural in the sense that any man beginning a family naturally desires and seeks out a permanent union between him and his wife.

 

The Ends of Marriage

Primary End:

Saint Thomas: [T]he principal end of matrimony, [is] the good of the offspring. For nature intends not only the begetting of offspring, but also its education and development until it reach the perfect state of man as man, and that is the state of virtue. Hence, […] we derive three things from our parents, namely “existence,” “nourishment,” and “education.” (Ibid.)

Commentary: Contrary to the modern concept of marriage, which sees the love between spouses as the most important aspect, the truly central purpose is the procreation and education of children. The union of marriage seeks above all else to supply new members of the Church and to prepare them for union with God in Heaven.

Our Lord’s words from the beginning “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen. 1 : 28) were not without cause. Any means which destroys, manipulates or deliberately hinders the purpose of marriage are contrary to Divine and natural law.

Among other things, homosexual “marriage” stands contrary to true marriage, as homosexual unions are intrinsically barren, the goal being nothing more than an emotional and unnatural attachment to an individual based solely on carnal lust.

Secondary End:

Saint Thomas: [T]he secondary end of matrimony, […] is the mutual services which married persons render one another in household matters. For just as natural reason dictates that men should live together [in society], […] so too among those works that are necessary for human life some are becoming to men, others to women. Wherefore nature inculcates that society of man and woman which consists in matrimony. (Ibid.)

Commentary: This is the second purpose for marriage: the mutual support of the spouses. And it is not merely the emotional attachment spouses have to another. Among many important factors, it necessitates financial stability, physical capabilities for labor, an environment suitable to a family and, above all else, solid virtue.

Living and working in close proximity with another will necessarily bring petty annoyances which can culminate into great suffering, at times making life seem unbearable. Thus, charity and patience will also be required for both to co-operate in a household to ensure that the needs of the family are sustained.

 

The Permanence of Marriage

Indissoluble by Nature:

Saint Thomas: By the intention of nature, marriage is directed to the rearing of the offspring, not merely for a time, but throughout its whole life. Hence it is of natural law that parents should lay up for their children, and that children should be their parents’ heirs (2 Corinthians 12:14). Therefore, since the offspring is the common good of husband and wife, the dictate of the natural law requires the latter to live together forever inseparably: and so the indissolubility of marriage is of natural law. (Supplement Q. 67 A. 1)

Commentary: Marriage is founded on the primary end of marriage, whence comes a naturally inseparable union. Such permanence brings about the happy result of a stable family.

A Further Aid to the Primary End of Marriage:

Saint Thomas: Now a child cannot be brought up and instructed unless it have certain and definite parents, and this would not be the case unless there were a tie between the man and a definite woman and it is in this that matrimony consists. (Supplement, Q 41. A1)

Commentary: Indissolubility is the natural result of the primary end. It is also a strong guarantee of a sense of stability in the child’s life, providing the child with identity, support, care and initiative. All such benefits pave the way to form a well-ordered, productive citizen and faithful Catholic.

Indissolubility a Reflection of Christ and His Church:

Saint Thomas: Indissolubility belongs to marriage […] is a sign of the perpetual union of Christ with the Church, and in so far as it fulfills an office of nature that is directed to the good of the offspring, as stated above. […] [T]he indissolubility of marriage is implied in the good of the sacrament rather than in the good of the offspring, although it may be connected with both. And in so far as it is connected with the good of the offspring, it is of the natural law, but not as connected with the good of the sacrament. (Supplement, Q. 65, A. 1)

Commentary: Here Saint Thomas answers those that would question the permanent state of marriage after children grow up and leave the house.

In this very beautiful reply, he points out that the husband and wife are meant to reflect the eternal union of Christ with His Church (cf. Ephesians 5 : 22-23), bound by an unbreakable fidelity.

 

Marriage is Monogamous

For the Upbringing of Children and Support of Spouses:

Saint Thomas: [P]lurality of wives neither wholly destroys nor in any way hinders the first end of marriage [procreation and education of children] … But though it does not wholly destroy the second end [support of spouses], it hinders it considerably for there cannot easily be peace in a family where several wives are joined to one husband, since one husband cannot suffice to satisfy the requisitions of several wives, and again because the sharing of several in one occupation is a cause of strife. (Supplement, Q. 65, A. 1)

Commentary: Saint Thomas observes that the begetting of children and perhaps even the support of more than one woman is physically possible. However, he notes that this is wholly counter-intuitive, as the suffering that accompanies marriage will be intensified by the presence of a community that will compete to gain favor. This is anything but the peace that Christ intended for a Christian family.

Although Saint Thomas does not say it directly, one can easily infer that the discord permeating a polygamous “family” would ruin a child’s moral compass and psychological development. Thus, indirectly, at least, it is contrary to the proper upbringing of offspring (i.e. the primary end of marriage).

Re-iteration of the Christ’s Fidelity to Church:

Saint Thomas: Furthermore [marriage] has another end, as regards marriage between believers, namely the signification of Christ and the Church […] [A]s Christ is one, so also is the Church one. (Ibid.)

Commentary: If the natural reasons against polygamy seem minor, Saint Tomas really hits home by showing that it is wholly contrary to Christ’s intention of creating marriage to mirror His fidelity with the Church. This, above all else, is what makes polygamy a grave evil and an offense against God.


1 The text provided in this article is from the Supplement of the Saint Tomas; though it is uncertain that he wrote the entire text, what is here recorded is the thought of the saint “gleaned from his Commentary on the Sentences of Peter Lombard and his Contra Gentiles.”(Robert Slavin, O.P.; “St. Thomas and His Teaching on the Family.”)

  • samnigromd

    PREVENTING SOCIETY’S DESTRUCTION OF FAMILY AND CHILDREN
    By: Samuel A Nigro, M.D. copyright c 2017, retired, , deplorable ad hominem pamphleteer, clinical psychiatrist, Case Western Reserve University and University Hospitals of Cleveland

    May 29, 2011

    Contemporary society is destructive of family life and childhood. The causes of this will be briefly described and solutions proposed. (This article will be a partial rewrite and extension of “The Results of and Psychological Causes of Contraception” published in Social Justice Review, December 19931.) Be prepared to be uncomfortable but not as uncomfortable as sex promoters everywhere.
    THE CAUSE: UNNATURAL SEXUALITY
    Humanae vitae was right: Artificial contraception is broadly destructive. Fifty years later, contemporary life undeniably demonstrates its negative impact. “Sex” is no longer “reproductive” as it is for the rest of the animal kingdom—and being out of synchrony with Nature as in all the polluting man does, it should not surprise that unnatural sex will have its polluting anti-common good effects too.
    Because of contraception, “sex” has become entertainment, advertising, and gamesmanship for all ages—Sex is trivialized to what it was in World War II Honolulu: “Three dollars; three minutes,” or the current high school friendship style: “We are just friends but with benefits,” meaning meaningless sexual “relief.” Contemporary sex usually has nothing to do with its natural functions of reproduction and unition in marriage for humans, and that makes it “pollution”—which is destructive of social mores and traditions for the common good. Overall, contemporary “sex” insults life, contradicts evolution, disproves natural selection, destroys relationships and promotes non-being (the latter a valid definition of “evil”). It really should not even be called “sex” but more about that later.
    All the “liberal” supporters and promoters for artificial contraception can censor but not realistically deny the negative impact of the pill and all its sequellae. The “pill” and its offshoots have removed humans from Nature on the planet. In contrast, all sex for the animal kingdom (from which we can often learn what is normal for the planet and therefore for ourselves) is overwhelmingly pheromone determined in nature for reproduction, i.e., life-offering (isolated exceptions acknowledged for all animals because subhuman animals can have “mental/biochemical” disorders too with unnatural sex acts sporadically found2). The destructive effects of “non-pheromone sex” due to contraception is almost imperceptible but pervasive.
    Actually, the Church, more faithful to Nature than any other organization ever, has been the psychosocial “pheromone” for humanity until the pill et al. As predicted by Humanae vitae, the pill has turned sex into blatant pollution i.e., any deviance from planetary norms. With the pill et al, any use of genitals is now claimed to be “normal”—from homosexuality to sex with children or even animals. The ejaculatory reflex has become a celebrated end in itself (“jaculasis”3) when it is a simple biological reflex not deserving the exciting craziness associated with its unnatural misuse. In addition, by such jaculasis, human relationships become unsustainable; women are masculinized; men are feminized; children are adulterated; family life is ruined; marriage is irrelevant; the press and media lose standards and ethics; culture becomes pagan; and the people lose beliefs to become suggestible to the stimulations from the latest influencing so-called “leader” or celebrity as the case may be4. Nazi rulers recognized this and were vocal about getting rid of “God” by subliminally promoting unnatural sex because they found that “reasoned” argument rarely unconverted anyone from belief—but deviant sex would do so slowly and inexorably. This is because unnatural “sex” promotions smother Truth, Oneness, Good and Beauty with loss of character, decay of faith, abandonment of hope, dissolution of principle, destruction of history, weakening of genuinely human bonds, and removal of independence, all replaced by barbarism, cowardice, dependency, slavery and paganism. The sex spasm has replaced any need for metaphor or simile. The squirt/slime sexkeit of Contemporary Europe especially proves the loss of moral health and decay of the common good, all due to the sex furies with their contraceptive plague killing tradition and the culture which gave us all we have. The only acceptable “sacred” thing left appears more and more to be the prurient press and media which use squirt and slime to replace completely man’s image and likeness of God—And the new taboo is dare to criticize “sex” (and the world truly is upside down). The final outcome is that the Church’s promotion of the sex of Nature and of Nature’s God is being overwhelmed by exciting stimulations for unNature all resulting from the pill mentality.
    Time Magazine (5-3-10) devoted an issue to the alleged beneficial impacts of “the pill” consistent with the standard-less dishonest press and media incorrigibility about the fact that “sex” is a “disorder” when abnormally used inconsistent with its natural function of reproduction (By definition, any “disease” or “disorder” is an “abnormality of function). Also overlooked is that it is moreso a “disorder” to proclaim that abnormal function is “normal.” In contrast to Time Magazine et al, the “pill” and contraception promoters have converted “sex” into a polluting despiritualizing, dehumanizing, unnatural, anti-evolutionary, anti-life, anti-gene, anti-natural-law force destructive of family life, childhood, culture and even religious life.
    It gets worse. As contraceptive female sex hormones flood the world, boys experience an epidemic of learning disablities, autism, attention deficit disorder, and homosexuality. Because of the pill, “abortion” becomes necessary and acceptable because life wants to go on in spite of contraception. With “abortion,” people lose their conscience and all society changes, because life is now expendable and arbitrary. And men do not have to care about their children—why should they when the kid was not wanted and could have been aborted. A close tragic example is the demise of Medicine as a profession: Abortion forced doctors not only to kill the unborn but to open medical records rendering the Oath of Hippocrates, which governed Medicine for over 2000 years, to be null and void except for the part where Medicine is cursed if the Oath was not followed (and if you do not think Medicine is cursed today, you are not a doctor). Look around, and most doctors are business men now and slaves to a medical bureaucracy of government and health insurance crooks. Make no mistake: this loss of Medicine as a profession is ultimately because of the pill. And the growing lack of pediatricians is not an unconscious spin off of “the pill”? There is more again: School children, deprived of childhood, now become killers aborting their own way in reaction to the murder of one-fourth of their classmates—and no wonder our children hate us adults—we deserve it—and it is the impact of the pill…So a 14 year old kills his three younger sibs, his mom and then himself on July 22, 2010—just call it “abortion, extended” by doing what is suggested. Just tell your children that one-fourth of their classmates are dead and that they are not supposed to care because they can have sex themselves—or maybe give them some matches and send them to the New York Times or other abortion loving psychopaths—the kids are doing their own “aborting” of those they consider unwanted too. And let us not bring up the epidemic of “bullying.” And as sex pills are advertised everywhere, the world is supposed to pretend there are no subliminal metastases from the “pill” even though by 2010, “sex addiction” is identified as an official disorder with treatment programs readily available. Got Humanae Vitae yet?
    In essence, because of the “pill,” every ejaculatory act is now “normal” enabling homosexuals to proclaim and deny their disorder at the same time which is absurd—People with disorders, whether diabetes, epilepsy, or schizophrenia, do not go around proclaiming how proud they are to have it and at the same time deny that they have a disorder. “Normal” people with any disorder adequately treated do not need to “come out” but can function without imposing their disorder on others. This is the ultimate proof of sickness of homosexuality and all those promoting contemporary “sex.” If this is not pollution, then nothing is. The “pill” is the cause of the promotion of non-reproductive non-marital sexuality for humans–which is as polluting and anti-environmental as squirting oil on the ground in backyards—only the impact of the pill is everywhere i.e., totally polluting—just turn on the television.
    SUGGESTIBILITY AS ORIGINAL SIN
    The next reason for the current toxic environment to family and children is the press and media4. The Church has failed to address and cope adequately with changes in communication technology. One needs little imagination to realize that for millennia before the arrival of current communication methods beginning in the 1950s, the Church was the major source of all information—You went to Church and Church schools to find out what was going on and how it fit in the Divine flow of the Universe, and the Church was likely the only place real music could be heard. But now there are thousands of newspapers, television shows, movies, videos, CDs, and the internet. The press and electronocelluloid communications have replaced the Church and now rule the world by convincing impressionable, gullible and suggestible people to believe almost anything except the Church—and denatured “sex” (appropriately called “prurience”) is malevolently used to promote and seduce to whatever the editors tyrannically desire and advertise. The press and media, more polluted more than all others, spread their unnaturalness incorrigibly and inexorably.
    The Church has forgotten that people are extremely suggestible and gullible—Indeed, suggestibility has always been the most accurate demonstration of original sin – “Go ahead – take a bite out of that apple.” Or, “Believe that editor’s glitz.” Or, most common nowadays : “Take the pill (or whatever) and ejaculate any way you want so you do not have to be part of Nature any longer.”
    Regardless, until people learn not to be gullible and suggestible, they will be at the mercy of unscrupulous tyrannical editors who impose their values with all sorts of exhilarating sexualized attention seeking sensationalism selling us material and mental garbage (“pollution” for sure). The suggestibility phenomenon when coupled with sexualization results in a despiritualization of life such that “anything goes” and “freedom” defaults to “whatever you can get away with.” Resulting is a pagan culture toxic to family life and childhood.
    PROPOSALS:

    1. Suggestibility Prevention Programs need to be implemented. These are available from me at Sam@DocNigro.com. “Suggestibility” makes everything contagious from homosexuality to HIV. Basically, children need to learn how to ignore the arousing over-stimulating opposite of what is True, One, Good and Beautiful. All need to know that everything from the contemporary press & media has been selected by unscrupulous calculating editors who want to manipulate all into buying junk—from junk food to junk ideas.
    The press and media have become “LOOK AT ME” experts playing “Let’s pretend, but buy what I’m selling!” Look closely and beyond the ink smudges and flickering lights, and see nothing with rare exceptions. Almost all is fantasy or made up nonsense best called “editor’s crap.” And the most celebrated newspaper should really be named The New York Brainwash. Basically, people must not believe anything from the press and media without two independent documented confirmations because the press and media are untrustworthy wanting only to manipulate the people to think the way of the editors. Suggestibilty Prevention Programs are especially essential to protect and promote my favorite mantra of the Church’s message:
    Break the Bread and bless the Wine and join Jesus with all others so sanctified in a Statimuum of all, with all, and for all, Incarnated by “Life, Sacrifice, Virtue, Love, Humanity, Peace, Freedom, Death,” in the universe received and receiving one time for all time praising God in unlimited Spirituality of Consubstantiation Transubstantiation. Amen. (Yeah!).

    Suggestibility (original sin) can sure mess it up.
    And it helps not when the press and media of America is run by craven cowards afraid to reveal and shame Muslims who follow a madman5 and a loveless book which promotes murder, child molesting, oppression of women, slavery and death to all who disbelieve, and, therefore, must use violence to maintain itself—and the press does nothing to help all. In addition, the American liberal press and media are total traitors to America when they promote government expansion, citizen constriction and unfreedom by directives opposite to those which gave America its successes and greatness—Let’s see now: The liberals have better ideas i.e., to do what not only failed other countries but what America has carefully avoided doing in the past. Amazing. Then there is the total suppression of the biggest child molesting pervert in history: Alfred Kinsey6 (who was not a priest). I shout: “Our press and media is unworthy of survival.” The press and media’s failure to tell the people what is not True, One, Good and Beautiful is a total discrediting of themselves to be craven cowards as well as an absolute denial and loss of journalism as a profession. Suggestibility Prevention Programs are needed.
    2. Satire of Sexuality is likely to be the only facile way to defuse the excitability and contagion of polluting prurience. Our culture is awash in sex innuendo and titillation for which the public needs rejecting words and ideas. The Church’s longstanding “sex is sacred” metaphor is failing not only the people since 1950s but also some clergy, as the recent priest-teenage-boy sex scandal confirms. Satire of Sexuality is the only alternative. It is a totally different way of thinking and will be foreign to all and therefore temporarily uncomfortable. Satire of Sexuality is basically an over-biological mocking which neutralizes sexuality such that it no longer enthralls and entices people into a despiritualized dehumanized mode of prurience. This can most effectively be done, I believe, by what I have recognized was my own Augustinian youth experience. Somehow, in my pre- and pubertal years, my peers had satirical words to use with any sexuality: It was a dirty minded schoolboy denigration of sexuality – ridiculous, humorous, nasty, crude, but extremely helpful – absolutely helpful – by being able to cope and neutralize sexually stimulating material instead of succumbing to it—sex was laughed off, ignored, and we had better fun learning about unadulterated general life. And the Nazi desired Godless outcome of unnatural sex was reversed by satirical mockery of unnatural non-functional “sex.”
    If someone has a better idea, then speak up – but right now, nothing works well, and I believe nothing will work expansively except a satirical simplistic over-biologizing of sexuality. Sex promoters will not like it; and they will censor it in contrast to their willingness to “free press” their prurience (which proves my point). To place “off limits” the words of Sex Satire is a journalistic and artistic crime. The words of Sex Satire should at least be offered as supplemental to the usual—just knowing about sex satire and hearing the mocking words applied to prurience may work wonders, and the people have the right to know them.
    This is not to denigrate marital sexuality which is ultimately sacred, because marriage offers “life” as the Church has declared while all non-marital sexuality is essentially a toileting function appropriately called “sexcretion.” Humanae vitae was right. Humanae vitae is right (My 1993 article1 has been proven accurate and is a must read for an in depth understanding of the basic loss of the common good due to contraception). Sexuality properly in marriage is a sacred phenomenon and should be life offering and unity producing. Outside of marriage, it should be called “toileting” and is toxic and destructive as PROVEN by the already described trends in our society since acceptance of the pill and all contraception thereafter.
    The perhaps first cutting edge ever written source of sex satire are in my two volume book Everybody for Everybody7 (available at Amazon). The SATIRE OF SEXUALITY contained therein need not be reproduced here – but should be imposed whenever non-reproductive, non-marital sexuality is glamorized and pro-offered. With the growing and incorrigible YouTube and rest of the internet, the “Dictionary of Disgust” and the rest of the sex satire articles need to be flooding the World Wide Web too for the sake of the children especially. A proposed “Childhood.com” (before the “public toileting” pornographers get it) needs to give children the words they need to hear which can help them remain children. Reviewers of the book have seen the sex satire parts as briskly humorous—headshaking humorous, and they acknowledge a hard-hitting laughable mental capacity to cope with prurience without contagion (Not that liberals will be happy with it—Madonna will not like what she should hear because it makes her into a laughable fool).
    Satire is an art form and cannot be more censored than sex promoters allow for themselves. Sex satire is basically a redefinition of extramarital non-reproductive sexuality as an excretory phenomenon! Such is foreign and unlikable but it is accurate and once understood places contemporary sex into an innocuous joke of biological relief. To have the ideation and words of Sex Satire available is to be able to defuse sexuality and reduce its destructive impact.
    Supposedly sex promoters have the right to impose their pollution, and, in like manner therefore, we have the right to equally impose sex satire. Just call them “dirty old men” and offer them the “Sex Prayer” from my book. Indeed, the press and media have always claimed to enthusiastically embrace “new ideas” and allegedly willing to promulgate them consistent with the First Amendment. This should apply to new conservative ideas as well as liberally wacko sex shock crap. Basically, the so-called free press should tell the world sex satire equal to sex promotions, so the people have a better understanding instead of emotional arousing stimulation—People can then better decide thoughtfully for themselves rather than automatic bewildering titillation. Of course, the “free and open press” choke on their own words and are nothing but transparent frauds when they refuse to promulgate my “Sex Prayer” and the other sexual satires offered. Quite frankly, Satire of Sex is subsumed under “new ideas” and allegiance to the First Amendment requires promulgation.
    The capacity to satirize sex gives resistance if not immunity to the tsunami of prurience which disrupts family life and childhood.
    3. The Right To Childhood must be implemented. Children deserve more than a philosophy.8 It is amazing and discrediting that all these promoters for human “rights” of every imaginable way of living (and squirting and sliming), refuse to promote a “Right to Childhood.” The Right to Childhood means that children are protected from adulthood. Even Sigmund Freud wrote of a natural “latency period” for children wherein sexuality was minimized and negated as essential for healthy development. Actually, childhood is destroyed by adulterating explicit sex education arousal programming and by contemporary press and media marketing and entertainment prurience. This toxic culture now includes the incidence of sex abuse of under age 14 involves 25 percent of girls and 10 percent of boys—numbers never like this anywhere before the electronocelluoid technology began to promote the pill and phermoneless sexuality. No doubt, the mocking of sex I heard during my latency was protective and developmentally sound.
    Children are better off with the dirty minded school boy satirical denigration of non-marital sex than anything ever offered by Planned Parenthood and their ineffective “sex ed” programs. “Sex ed” is predatory by an outright self-defeating design so Planned Parenthood, exploiting an undeniable conflict of interest, can make money doing abortions for resulting pregnancies (when justice demands Planned Parenthood pay for the pregnancies and child care resulting when their sex ed fails). For pre-adults, sex ed and contraception routinely fail because youths are incompetent to handle sex/contraception as much as they are incompetent to take their own medicines for any illness, incompetent to drink alcohol, incompetent to drive cars well, incompetent to get their homework done on time and even incompetent to keep their room clean. To give children adulthood with or without contraception is stupid and pollution.
    The “Right to Childhood” involves knowledge that one-fourth of a person’s age class and generation has likely been murdered by abortion. They have the right to know who did it and who supported it. They have the right to choose how to deal with the adults who were involved. What goes around, comes around.
    A “Right to Childhood” is needed which includes an unadulterated lifestyle filled with wholesome education and activities and a capability to mock and laugh at the polluting sex garbage flooding the world.
    Until someone comes up with effective alternatives, these solutions must be embraced and promulgated vigorously. If this approach makes you uncomfortable, think how it affects the mega-sexoisie and the sexarchy manipulating us to be the make-nice namby pamby sex-numbed fools that we are.

    1. “The Results of and Psychological Causes of Contraception—or The Most Important Messages of Humanae Vitae Are Not About Sex” by Samuel A. Nigro, M.D., Social Justice Review Dec 1993, pp 209-213 or http://WWW.CatholicCultureLibrary.
    2. Book Review of Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity by Bruce Bagemihl, Social Justice Review, March/April 2001, page 60-61.
    3. “Jaculasis: Behavioral Pollutions and Sex Abuse by Priests” by Samuel A. Nigro, M.D. Social Justice Review Sept/Oct 2002, pp 133-138.
    4. And Satan Turned Into An Angel of Light by Samuel A. Nigro, M.D. Social Justice Review Central Bureau, St. Louis, Mo. 1996.
    5. The Psychology of Mohammed by Dr. Masud Ansari, Alibris B029142501.
    6. Kinsey, Sex and Fraud: the indoctrination of a people by Judith A. Reisman, Edward W. Eichel, John H. Court & J.Gordon Muir, Lochinvar Inc., 1990.
    7. Everybody for Everybody by Samuel A. Nigro, M.D., Xlibris, 2009, 2 Volumes, total 1412 pages.
    8. The Philosophy of Childhood by Gareth B. Matthews, Indiana University, 2006.

    • Fran Barnes

      Your method of fighting the perverse spirit of the flesh might could possibly do some good. However, I would like to respond with just some very common sense stuff. I’m not so sure the Freudian repression method would work too well in today’s ambience. Children and young adults are not so easily spoofed precisely because of the deluge of carnal temptations that are prevalent. To truly arm a young person to resist such temptations, I have always found that a thorough giving of Understanding, Insight, a strongly communicated real love and support for this person you are trying to help, understanding, compassion, a consistent foundation in the Word of God for those individuals who are in the pitfall of the flesh, will build within the struggling youth to turn to God for strength and a going forward to also imitate these battlefield strategies amongst his/her piers.

      • Black Swan

        Thank you for your recommendation for a more pastoral approach to this problem our young people face. Nobody likes to be left behind socially in high school or college, or in the world of work that follows, and the path of virtuous living can be very lonely. We have a hard sell we are trying to make: we are offering nutritious broccoli and spinach, and the enemy is offering them cotton candy and Twinkies! We have to somehow get through to the young that the right course is to wait until marriage, and to stay celibate if that day never comes. I am glad I waited, but I understand and don’t put down those who fall along the way, and who return repentant from the pig pen.
        Another group I think needs understanding and also some slack cut for them, is Catholic married couples who already have children and are now at the end of their rope both emotionally and financially. They have “grave reasons”, not frivolous or selfish ones, to limit the size of their families, and NFP doesn’t work for everyone. I don’t have the answer for them if they do what they believe is the responsible thing in limiting the size of their family by artificial means, but wish to stay Catholic and raise the children they already have in the Church. I certainly have no desire to push them away, nor think less of them. Thank God someone is still raising Catholic children!

      • samnigromd

        SEX PRAYER
        A MODEST PROPOSAL:
        (“SEX IN A JAR OF URINE”—words and art back at the sex mongers?)
        THE SEX PRAYER—(only 2 pages!) A REVOLUTION IN PHRASEOLOGY IMMUNIZING AGAINST SEX CRAZINESS BY REASON OFFERING BIOLOGICAL BLUNTNESS which reunifies body and spirit and offers a practical remedy for cultural prurience. It has taken a thousand years to achieve traditional family life and it is being destroyed by the plague of unnatural sexuality from a malignant press and media. AND NO ONE HAS THE FAINTEST IDEA WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT. The passivity to genital abnormalization and exploitation of sex must be replaced by explicitness and new language which normalizes sexuality to the marital state; and thus prurient sexuality will stop creating stupidity and slavery. The new ”explicit” but accurate language will not titillate in contrast to all the explicit sex to which we are currently exposed by an arrogant self-righteous untrustworthy anti-family press & media unworthy of the First Amendment…Prayed for is a reasoned stabilizing understanding of the prurience and violence feigned to be necessary and righteous which the amoral impertinent press & media give us day in and day out. The new lexicon is discomforting but it will help all not be so gullible or suggestible to abnormal genital use. (This was first described in less intense fashion in “Jaculasis: Behavioral Pollution and Sex Abuse by Priests” in Social Justice Review, September/October 2002, pages 133-139 and originally published in reduced version in Everybody for Everybody Vol II, page 560-563, by Samuel A. Nigro, MD). Sit back. Enjoy. It is only 2 pages long. You will cope better with “sex” which is now mostly pollution in its impact on a decent culture. Just knowing the words and the biological satire is enough to help you laugh it off. It is not for marital sex or daily use—but only when the sex mongers impose their craziness. Its impact will be to defuse prurient sex. Reading it a few times can have a lasting impact.
        Sex: sacredness in marriage; satire when not!

        Samuel A. Nigro, M.D. Copyright c 2011

        Oh Lord, I thank you for the gifts of gender and sex so that we can reproduce ourselves by the natural mixture of maleness (matter, truth, good) of men and femaleness (form, oneness, beauty) of women, thereby experiencing the fullness of Nature and a glimpse of Trinitarian Transcendental ecstasy. Thank you for making this pleasurable because, without it, we would not bother with each other’s disgusting excretory linked genitals or other body parts. Thank you for words of sexual normalization which help reduce brain over-stimulation. In seeing others in normal daily life, help us not think of them sexually any more than thinking of them urinating, defecating, menstruating or in any other secretory private bodily function. Help us, Lord, always be environmentally true to Nature and the planet wherein sexual activity is for reproduction almost always pheromone dependant and determined by the female of every species. Thank you for our human independence from pheromone compliance—an independence which allows LOVE. And please help us, without phermomones, then choose rightly and true to Nature and your commandments. Help us realize that if sex is not consistent with reproduction as in the rest of the animal kingdom, then we are out of synchrony with Nature because such sex is then a form of unnecessary excretion—like diarrhea. Help us keep sexual activity sacred by maintaining the unitive male-female permanence of optimum married life wherein we fight fair, forget fast and grow together by all activities including even those fleeting MOIs (moments of incompatibility). Help us remember that pre-adults have the Right to Childhood without adult sexuality because such interferes with normal and natural child development—that to impose adult sexuality onto pre-adults is psychopathic and against the planet and animal kingdom. Help us keep sexual activity as an elementary private personal biological function consistent with the privacy of our contiguous excretory organs necessarily linked to our reproductive organs. As St. Augustine said, “We are born between feces and urine,” and give us the same graphic demystifying understanding of sex he needed to establish the self-control he prayed for. Help us not become pollution by a sexual openness which is inappropriately over-stimulating, anti-social, uncivil, anti-animal kingdom, anti-environmental, and disruptive of childhood and adult relationships just like ordinary excretion would be if it was indecently promoted in public. Help us never forget that the Nazis proved that deviation from natural and traditional sexuality made people forget about holiness, genuine love, and even you, oh God. Help our children understand they have the right to be a child until full sex hormone development for themselves. Help our children understand that their maturity begins when the girls begin to bleed ova (eggs) and the boys begin to squirt sperm; and that sexual activity is for making babies after marriage because a marriage between a man and a woman is the best place for having babies and raising children so all youths have the experience of both a mom and a dad. Help us understand that anyone who sexualizes children (other than simple explanations for the curious) is a pedophile wanting to exploit them. Help us teach “family reproduction education” and not “sex education,” the latter being nothing but a Nazi originated pedophilia which destroys spiritual development. Help us stop biochemical birth control which has destroyed natural maleness and natural femaleness as well as caused the acceptance of abortion as a “backup” for “failed contraception” among the sexual polluters. Help us realize that female hormone birth control is totally unnatural and has broad negative effects including making girls into harem-women and boys into unspiritual facades of maleness. Help us realize that birth control hormones degrade and deform subsequent offspring including homosexuality in both sexes and in boys especially causing brain dysfunction including learning disabilities, attention deficit disorders and autism. Help us realize that contraception and abortion especially are totally anti-evolutionary, if you believe in evolution. Help us find the words to defuse sex craziness which degrade unnatural un-planetary sex and help sanctify planetary naturally sound reproductive/unitive sex for the married. Help all understand that natural sexual activity is the penis going into the vagina, and all else is either pollution against nature or sexual excretion (“relief” like “going to the bathroom” accurately called “sexcretion”). Help unmarried young people cope with distractions and temptations by remembering that buttocks when presented seductively are “anus protectors”; that breasts when presented seductively are “milk, cancer, sweat, fat, pontoon, hanging, useless chest glands”; that the vagina when presented seductively is a “baby blood hole” which has a urine hole in front of it, a feces hole behind it and is filled with blood ¼ of the time; that 99 percent of the time, the “ud” (nee’ penis) is used to urinate in the direction wanted by the male and should always be called the “urine director” (“ud”) instead of “penis” (the latter word now applicable only to normal sexual intercourse); that cleavage is nothing but a peculiar way of female mooning; that pubic hair is nothing but friction absorbers so the skin is not injured during intercourse; and that sexual relief is basically selfishness or a form of natural excretion (like “wet-dreams”) which should not become an enslaving way of life or an obsessive-compulsive disorder. Sexual squirting for men and sexual sliming for women are body excretory acts accompanying nature’s way of starting a baby—neither squirting nor sliming should be so important that one loses one’s identity and life because of them. Help us realize that non-marital sexual activity is nothing but helping each other “go to the bathroom” and that “pornography” is nothing but public toileting and public excretion best seen as a bunch of dogs licking each others’ rear ends. Help us remember not only that “we are born between feces and urine” but that we procreate between feces and urine too—And please, God, help us remember all this so we do not become crazy about sex, any more than crazy about urinating, defecating or menstruating. Remind us that for all animals on the planet, sex is a simple biological function to create life—it is not recreation, entertainment or a game. Help us remember that the fantasy filled press and media (liar-papers and unreal-vision) culture of celebrated indecency and dishonor is actually the creation and promotion of non-being (which is also a good definition of “evil”). Remind us that for mankind, sexual activity is for unition and reproduction in a spiritual and marital relationship for family life, and that all other sexuality is sliming and squirting excretory pollution when outside of marriage. Help all know that almost all illnesses enter the body through the mouth and keeping ones mouth clean and healthy makes for a long life (and thus the mouth should not be used for toileting!). Help young people know that they will fall in and out of love with “broken heart” feelings many times before finding the right person to marry, so pre-marital sex is not smart but is to sell one’s self out to another when the smartest approach is to never let the other party think you care very much until there is a mutual marriage commitment—and even then to help each other “go to the bathroom” is almost always a violation of the future marriage vows and a betrayal of one’s future spouse. Help young people to know that, even though it is the best feeling in the world, “puppy luv” makes you stupid and a victim. Regardless, thank you God for the sexual creativeness of our lives in marriage and Nature. And especially, thank you for making sex pleasurable, otherwise there would be no human race and we would likely not touch each other with ten foot poles. Help us remember that sex is sacred in marriage and that extramarital sex is excretion or satire. Help us remember that lives are saved by Natural sex and lost by non-marital sex. Amen.

        • Joseph Hicswa

          Good argument. Thank you. There are individuals who know what to do about corrupted Sex Eduction in Public Schools paid by local tax payers BUT do not have authority to reform. Three or more must get their minds together and find a way–THERE ALWAYS IS A WAY!

  • Rev Donald Spitz

    Praise the Lord Jesus Christ.

  • Joe Right

    St. Thomas is so clear and logical! No doubts permitted.

  • Jimmy Chonga

    Tree angelic doctor always has the right prescription.

  • messup

    In order to “march-in-lock-step” towards a “collective,” three basic tenets of every free society are: 1) the individual and (their) God; 2) the Family (union of one MAN + one WOMAN = procreating, having siblings; and 3) Community. These three “societal building blocks” form a Free Society. Every maniacal country’s leader will seek annihilation of ALL three of these fundaments. Pray. Amen. God Bless America and ALL America. Read A Bible. NKJV Exactly what has been underway in these USA, since 1900’s with Fabian Socialism/Marxian(Lenin) communism.. Psalm 128 (God’s Law).

  • Joseph Hicswa

    Cohabitiation is for Life Mates to become parents and examples for generation(s) they procreate.
    Public School’s Moral/Sex education has gone awry and needs professional reform.

    • jose

      Sex educación at schools has the aim of undermining Christian society through presenting sex as something natural and biological (which is indeed) in classes where there are always boys and girls (encourage to have sex before getting married).
      It worked.

      Why politicians and their secret lobbies should use tax payers services to further their own ends?

      You can not teach everything at school: there is a límit of time
      So schools must be devoted to what once was to: teaching litteracy to children in order they have a better life when they grow up. For those that have the interest and the brains: to prepare them to study at University.

      Johm Dewey open the flood gates when he allowed people like Hilary Clinton, Nancy Pelosi and Soros brain washed our children through compulsory educación.

  • Joseph L. Sexton

    Marriage is the Social acceptance of 1 Man & 1 woman living together for the purpose of procreation, as in having a Family.

    • Pradeep C Thomas

      What about the Heavenly acceptance of God? Even if the society accepts, but God doesn’t accept? Marriage is a sacrament.

  • Mark Syman

    I remember reading portions of Summa Theologica a few years ago, in particular, I remember reading passages on polygamy being acceptable under approval by a bishop, but I do not remember reading any disparaging comments on polygamy.

    • Mercy & Truth

      Not sure what you’re getting at, but documents easy enough to find on the internet. Seems TA was mostly concerned w/why OT men were allowed several wives, while Jesus Christ fulfilled/perfected to limit men to one wife. TA speaks of dispensation given to OT, but states quite plainly that polygamy is and always was against the natural law. He is not interested in disparaging anything but in knowing the truth so he could act accordingly.

      Whether it was ever lawful to have several wives? Objection 1: It would seem that it can never have been lawful to have several wives. For, according to the Philosopher (Ethic. v, 7), “The natural law has the same power at all times and places.” Now plurality of wives is forbidden by the natural law, as stated above (A[1]). Therefore as it is unlawful now, it was unlawful at all times.

      http://www.sacred-texts.com/chr/aquinas/summa/sum610.htm

  • yerfackingmammy

    No dichotomy nor contradiction between “the love of the spouses” and “the procreation and education of the children”.

    A broken, loveless marriage is going to result in very messed up children. Thus, what’s best for the parents IS what’s best for the children.

    Arguments that enforce a dichotomy torture the beauty of creation.

    • IS

      Not sure who taught you logic but probably the same devil worshiping liar who taught you that what Jesus Christ taught about the goats lining up on His left and the sheep lining up on His right–the four last things death, judgment, heaven and hell were binary falsehoods that torture the beauty of creation–everyone goes to heaven so don’t save your soul, save planet earth! No good/right or evil/wrong in your “beautiful” creation so who determines what’s best for the parents (or the children) and based on what criteria? Makes perfect sense to me that whatever’s best for you is the same as what’s best for your wife and if you two disagree (oh that dichotomy can’t exist because it would torture the beauty of creation!)—whatever you will is what’s best for everyone. Guess everyone should be worshiping you, huh? Or else all worshiping themselves? Maybe like Nietzsche you can declare God is dead, yourself a super man, and die in an insane asylum because “all superior men who were irresistibly drawn to throw off the yoke of any kind of morality and to frame new laws had, if they were not actually mad, no alternative but to make themselves or pretend to be mad.” You’re certainly half way there w/that moniker.

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friedrich_Nietzsche

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4XT-l-_3y0

      • yerfackingmammy

        Tortured souls like this give Catholicism a bad rap.

    • Bailey

      So why do you hate your mother?

  • A D Paul

    Beautiful assertion of marriage as a positive act. I am afraid people have forgotten that marriage is a decision; that is why there is a public oath. In the animal kingdom sex is an urge culminating in the birth of offspring. Animals are in a way lucky, as they do not have to make a decision. People who think that marriage is an urge will not marry successfully; when the urge is no more, relation also ends. In the case man and woman since marriage is a decision, it can be stable. Stable marriages are fulfilling experience and the children are secure in that milieu.

  • Victoria Smith

    Amen.

  • samnigromd

    LIVE ULTIMATE HUMAN PURPOSE!! LIVE THE LAST WORDS OF CHRIST—A POETIC (rap?) EFFORT of sorts… These are the eight ensoulment “paradigms” to win the “game” of life by following the “rules” of life. They constitute “LOVEOLUTION”–the revolution/evolution brought by Jesus through the Church.. Sacramental living is to participate in the pre-Big Bang, pre-Universe Eternity…the Statimuum with God and the Hierarchy of Angels which give matter/form in space-time. (The “secular” paradigms are 2 thru 7 plus 11 & 12.)
    Copyright 2016 Samuel A. Nigro, M.D.’s books “ANCIENT SECRETS”, “SOUL OF
    THE EARTH” and “EVERYBODY FOR EVERYBODY”:

    (One of the LAST WORDS OF CHRIST can apply to every activity…
    Learn eight ENSOULMENT paradigms (the Anthropic Schema) of the twelve bases of Christian living—
    1-Sacramental, 2-universal, 3-scientific, 4-virtuous, 5-transcendental
    6-{Therapeutic.
    7- basic physics existence per Stephen Hawking (matter)
    8-[Mass Mantra: Life, Sacrifice, Virtue, Love, Humanity,
    Peace, Freedom, Death without Fear]
    9-WORDS–ANGEL HIERARCHY: SERAPHIM-leadership, executive, matter/form, transcendentals
    (flames)
    10-Gifts of the Holy Spirit
    11-Ancient Greek Education components–Trivium, Quadrivium, Sports (my add as Univium)
    12-Just Third Way–economics: matter management by Spirit

    “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”
    “Pater, dimitte illis, quia nesciunt, quid faciunt.”
    Confess into a unity spectrum giving hope and identity…
    {Selective Ignoring.
    “spectrum”-a splitting of energy into position-time
    relationships.
    [ Humanity]
    THRONES-judiciary, free judgment, interrelating
    (love in charge)
    Fear of (offending) the Lord–consequential reverence
    Geometry
    Ownership-worker & capital based democracy are Health, Education, Law
    Savings Accounts removing poverty

    “This day thou shall be with me in Paradise.”
    “Hodie mecum eris in Paradiso.”
    Holy Order into a Life (the Father) dimension giving
    courage and being…
    {Non-Reactive Listening.
    “dimension”-space coordinates (length, width, height, weight, color, race,
    sex, geographic heredity) and time.
    [ Virtue ]
    PRINCIPALITIES-nations, states, cities, communities, time-bound political social
    (politics)
    Fortitude–courage
    Music
    Capital Homesteading-participatory & global property rights/responsibilities

    “Woman, behold thy son. World, behold your mother.”
    “Mulier, ecce filius tuus. Omnes, ecce mulier tuus.”
    Baptism into a dignity event giving faith and matter…
    {Living Things are Precious.
    “event” –a point in space-time of something certain that
    happens.
    [ Life ]
    CHERUBIN-legislative, operational, wisdom, faith events
    (illuminating)
    Understanding–comprehending and reasoning
    Arithimetic
    Binary Benefits-worker & capital; -savings with Health Savings Accounts
    removing poverty

    “My God, why hast thou forsaken me?”
    “Deus meus, Deus meus, utquid dereliquisti me?”
    Holy Communion into an integrity field giving charity and
    truth…
    {Subdued Spontaneity Non-Self Excluded.
    “field” –a matrix existing throughout space and time.
    [ Sacrifice ]
    DOMINIONS-theology, reason, all creation, perfection
    (true freedom)
    Piety–fidelity to duty
    Rhetoric
    Profit-consumption is production; -environmentally sound with Nature and
    Nature’s God

    “I thirst.”
    “Sitio.”
    Matrimony into a Liberty (the Son) uncertainty giving
    temperance and good…
    {Personhood…Conscious of Consciousness (C2) for the
    Species.
    “uncertainty” –accuracy of position is inverse to accuracy of
    movement.
    [Freedom ]
    ARCHANGELS-family groups, individuals in groups linked in motion and position
    (real family)
    Knowledge–in-depth familiarity
    Logic
    Labor-virtue

    “It is finished.”
    “Consummatum est.”
    Extreme Unction into a spirit singularity giving justice and
    beauty…
    {Detached Warmth and Gentleness.
    “singularity” –a point of space-time curvature infinity at
    gravitational collapse–a recompression back to the Pre-Big
    Bang and a new “universe” of Heaven, Purgatory or hell..
    [Death without Fear ]
    POWERS-medicine, safekeeping, protective functioning, spatial infinity closeness, justice
    (all health)
    Wisdom–sound judgment
    Astronomy
    Social Justice-feedback & Health Savings Accounts

    “Into thy hands I commend my spirit.”
    “In manus tuas, Domine, commendo spiritum meum.”
    Confirm into an identity quantum giving prudence and
    oneness…
    {Affect Assistance.
    “quantum” –the indivisible unit of giving and receiving
    energy.
    [Peace ]
    VIRTUES-law, ordering, operational order, spatial identities
    (strength to overcome)
    Counsel–trustworthiness
    Grammar
    Participative Justice- input

    “The earthquake finale.”
    “Il Terremoto.”
    Grace into Pursuing the Transcendentals (the Holy
    Spirit force giving holiness and being.
    {Make that relationship count! The Flag of Mankind and:
    “I pledge to treat all humanely by caring for and respecting other’s bodies; by understanding other’s minds but being true to myself without disrespect; and by accepting the emotions of others as I control my own. I will have mercy on others with gentle liberty and empathic justice for all.” (Check out PeaceMercy.com)
    “force” –that which affects matter particles—transcendental
    string or circles between human particles too.
    [ Love ]
    GUARDIAN ANGELS-self, individual guardians, genuine pursuit of happiness/transcendentals
    (self/ego)
    The Holy Spirit
    Sports (“sports” are a touch of genuine education and spirit)
    Distributive Justice-output

    “FALLEN” ANGELS-DEMONS-
    -Antiwords: hateful, violent, manipulations, and suggestions to sin
    -Lies
    -Astrology and television, movies, electronic-celluloid press language of the foul, demeaning and entropy
    -Fools with long words and large vocabularies not coinciding with transcendental existence
    -willful entropy
    -pride, covetousness, lust, anger, gluttony, envy, sloth
    -socialism

    Check out on the web: Theogeocalculus.
    Review: Matthew 26:26-30; Mark 14: 22-25; Luke 22: 19-20; John 6: 41-59; 1Cor 11: 23-26.

  • Chris Lilly

    Marriage and family are vital social institutions. Saint Thomas Aquinas understands the philosophical and theological reasoning behind this truth. Abortion, contraception, divorce, pornography et cetera have undermined marriage and family. We now live in a society that follows the philosophy of Jerry Springer .

  • Vincent Swift

    St Thomas is following St Paul and expanding on his teaching Marriage mirrors Christ and his Church because like all vocations for which Christ instituted sacraments it is the means by which people live as sons and daughters of God Marriage is the normal way that men an women live in a manner that is like Christ Marriage is the primary unit of the family and Heaven is a Family Anything other than a Christlike way of life leads nowhere because it has no legimate means of fulfilling the purpose of a Christian life it has no vocation All the other nonsense is futile

  • Vincent Swift

    A lawfully married couple are literally two persons in one flesh A four legged unit that is why adultery fornication and all the other attacks on that unit are wrong and always will be When the Jews asked Christ why Moses allowed divorce he said it was because you were so hard to teach It was not so from the beginning This was recalling Genesis when the man said this is flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone ie a union of two persons in one flesh

  • Lonnie Adams

    I grieve for all my divorced and remarried friends and relatives who are divorced and unable for whatever the reason cannot be forgiven for their divorce and remarriage and denied the benefit of reasceivimg the Holy
    Eucharist for whatever the reason
    only a few of us have been blessed to have found the right spouse for a lifetime some made tremendous errors in judgement either through immaturity