The Bottom Line on Marriage

the_bottom_line_on_marriage The Bottom Line on Marriage

The Bottom Line on Marriage

There are those who attack traditional marriage and say this sacred institution should no longer be defined in terms of the procreation of the human race and the mutual love and support of a man and a woman. Such advocates of “redefining” marriage fail to understand that we do so at great risk.

There are plenty of moral arguments that deal with the need to defend traditional marriage. However, many refuse to recognize the existence of an objective morality, relying instead upon subjective feelings. For these, perhaps the best way to explain the importance of this essential institution is in terms that people today understand best—economic terms.

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And so the bottom line is this: a wedding is more than just a social celebration; it is also a major economic event. It signals the entry of a new entity—the family—into an economy that naturally favors balanced production and consumption. By its very nature, the family expands the economy by celebrating and welcoming new life since children are seen as blessings, not burdens.

“Economy” in its original sense was born around the warm hearth of the home, as it originally referred to the management of the household. The family home conveys the idea of an ideal school of temperance that teaches its members duty and responsibility, self-sacrifice and joyful celebration. If we want to return to some kind of prosperity, the family based on traditional marriage is indispensable. There is no substitute.

However, a family is not just any grouping of people in the same house. It presupposes a complementary union of spouses that creates a climate of intense affinity, affection, and stability that allow the ideal psychological conditions for individuals to develop. The family has that creative restraint that at once limits, yet challenges. It succors, yet makes demands. It provides both support for shortcomings and incentives to excel.

The traditional family, especially the large family, is rich in solutions since it unites past, present and future. The individual can draw upon family traditions. Past figures can serve as role models. The future can be built upon family wealth, honor and name. Such concepts make the family more than just a single set of relationships but rather a world of relationships spanning generations.

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The family is an institution uniting personalities, property, names, rights, principles, and histories and therefore favoring stable economic growth. Because it furthers the well-being of all society and economy, it is in the interest of the State to favor this notion of the family and to bestow benefits upon it.

These and other reasons only reinforce the arguments in favor of defending traditional marriage and against “redefining” it. On the other hand, those relationships now challenging traditional marriage define themselves by their lack of restraint, their defiance of morality and the adoption of frenzied lifestyles.

In the case of homosexual “marriage,” the very name highlights the idea of sexual gratification over any other considerations. Such unions turn the procreative function into a non-creative one. They turn natural fecundity into an unnatural sterility.

Indeed, traditional marriage is so fecund that heterosexual couples who would frustrate its end must do violence to nature to prevent the birth of children by using contraception or abortion. On the contrary, same-sex unions are so sterile that those who would circumvent nature must employ costly and artificial means or employ surrogates to bring about adoptive children who will always, intentionally, be deprived of either a mother or a father.

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The natural state of marriage is to create a world of natural blood relationships with continuity and stability so that all society might advance. Other unions, whether homosexual, adulterous or “free love,” cannot do this and come to be reduced to mere conventions used to advance the individual’s pursuit of happiness.

Without this family, we experience the lack of restraint and temperance so needed to keep the economy in balance. In my book, Return to Order: From a Frenzied Economy to an Organic Christian Society, I speak about what I call frenetic intemperance in our economy where instant gratification is the order of the day.

We now have a credit-card economy where we must everything instantly, regardless of the consequences. This has largely happened because the family, that ideal school of temperance, is no longer functioning as it should–and other schools of intemperance are given free rein.

The bottom line is that the heart and soul of economy is found in the family based on indissoluble marriage, the blessings of children and robust traditions. Strong families lead to strong economies. Frenzied lifestyles cause frenzied markets with their restless spirit of frenetic intemperance. That is the long and short of it.


11 thoughts on “The Bottom Line on Marriage

  1. Well written and thoughtful. However, such rational, morality based arguments will not deter the courts nor those interested in only a secular definition of socially acceptable behavior. As to the economic arguments, I can just hear the same-sex couples responding that they would do society an economic service by adopting unwanted children and raising them in a loving home. We will vote, given the chance, for confirmation of heterosexual marriage as the only legitimate form of marriage just like we vote against abortion on the grounds that it is murder. But, those who live for their own sake’s constitute the active majority in the US and we are unlikely to prevail.

  2. God has created man in pairs, male and female,
    to participate with God creating man. God did not directly create a new man,
    but by a husband and wife. It’s a law of nature. If people want to rebel
    against the laws of nature, he did a stupid act, as previously done by the Jewish
    man who asked Moses to divorce his wife. Do not act against the laws of nature,
    the law of God.

  3. A good article.

    However, I think the cultural war was largely already lost some time ago when “nuclear family” came to mean “traditional family”; as if “dad, mom, and children” are capable of carrying on civilization when they are cut-off from the extended ancestral family.

  4. I think we also need to consider the fact that one major reason that homosexuality is flourishing is the warped morality that underlies it. For the woman, she is desperately in need of a mother figure in her life and is willing to trade sex to get it. For men, they are desperate for a father in their lives and also are willing to use sex to get it. These people wouldn’t be so desperate for a parent in their lives if they had HAD parents in their lives and had those basic needs fulfilled as children.
    Remember, God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and steve! We all should take the hint! But it is beyond sad to see these horrible consequences of the 1960’s. People were to busy engaging in sex to love their families. We now reap the consequences.

  5. I have been reading your book, and I am quite impressed with it. One thing I notice about this post is that you say that much of our current problems have “largely happened because the family, that ideal school of temperance, is no longer functioning as it should”. People have pointed to divorce and homosexual “marriage” as examples of this dysfunction. However, there are not many who point to what might be a deeper sign of familial dysfunction: the absence of that order given by Scripture, and past Church teaching, of what the duty of a husband and a wife is in marriage.

    Most significantly: the duties of a husband to love his wife and the wife to be subordinate to her husband (defined primarily in Ephesians 5), and then the duty of a husband to work to provide for his family and the duty of the wife to keep her priorities home-based, taking care of the needs of the home (defined primarily in the Catechism of the Council of Trent).

    As unpopular as all this may sound, these principles truly do have a significant impact on culture, societal well-being, and even economy, and moreover they were very much more active in the medieval Christian times that are referenced frequently in the book. In my opinion, we would be foolish to ignore them in our analysis.

  6. Many of our children go to public schools where they do not receive Christian teaching. They will follow the movies on the TV and other stories were sexual relation start early in their live without any restraint and not knowing the real meaning of lasting love. The terms girl and boy friend are common and are without binding rules. The rule of love, procreation and promises.

    • Our whole family went to public school, husband went the Navy so he could go to college on the
      GI Bill. went to same public schools, Navy, got Married, he went to college, five yrs, we had two
      children He went to U.of Detroit, U of M, I didn’t go to college but one week at Harvard, Raised three daughters, none on drugs, I taught religion classes to kids that went to public school, taught for 26 years, first 25 had a perfect attendance, 6th graders, and all enjoyed more from me than in the christian schools. It is the kids, parents that have to work together. God Bless all of you

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